My great-uncle, Arthur Borden passed away this past weekend and was laid to rest on Wednesday, July 28th, 2010 in New York. The following are 2 different obituaries that ran this week in The New York Times along with some poetry I discovered that spoke to me…
BORDEN, ARTHUR MURRAY
New York Times, The (NY) – Monday, July 26, 2010
BORDEN–Arthur Murray, 90, of Manhattan, died peacefully July 23, 2010. Long-standing corporate lawyer and adjunct professorat New York Law School, he was a legal pioneer of taking publicly-traded companies private and author of a leading treatise on the subject, ‘Going Private’. Mr. Borden was born April 18, 1920 in Brooklyn, and completed Yale College before serving in Europe in the U.S. Army as First Lieutenant. Post-war, he obtained his law degree at Columbia and embarked on a 50-year legal practice at various New York firms, including Borden & Ball; Sage, Gray, Todd & Simms; and Rosenman & Colin. In 1958 he incorporated the not-for-profit African American Students Foundation, which provided scholarships, including one for Barack Obama’s father. His enduring interest in public affairs led to numerous articles on politics and a recent book. ‘A Better Country: Why America Was Right to Confront Iraq’. An inveterate New Yorker who summered in Lenox, MA, he is survived by a large and adoring family, including his beloved sister Dorothy and brother-in-law Ralph Kaufman; Erica, Mark and Ross, his three children from his first wife, the late Florence Smiley of Brooklyn; Lindsay, Andrew and Anthony, his three children from his second wife, Audrey Poe of Memphis; and eight beautiful grandchildren. Service Wednesday 11:45am at “The Riverside”, 76th St and Amsterdam Ave. Interment private. Reception 4pm University Club, 54th and Fifth.
New York Times, The (NY) – Tuesday, July 27, 2010
BORDEN–Arthur. The partners, attorneys and staff of Katten Muchin Rosenman mourn the passing of our long time partner and counsel, Arthur Borden, who died peacefully on July 23, 2010 at the age of 90. Arthur was affiliated with us for the last 23 years, and was a legal pioneer of taking publicly-traded companies private and author of a leading treatise on the subject, ‘Going Private’. We will miss Arthur’s keen intellect and sage counsel, and extend our heartfelt condolences to his family.
He is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
Let Me Go
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little, but not for long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that once we shared
Miss me, but let me go.
For this is a journey we all must take
And each must go alone.
It’s all part of the master plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick at heart
Go the friends we know.
Laugh at all the things we used to do
Miss me, but let me go.
When I am dead my dearest
Sing no sad songs for me
Plant thou no roses at my head
Nor shady cypress tree
Be the green grass above me
With showers and dewdrops wet
And if thou wilt remember
And if thou wilt, forget.
I shall not see the shadows,
I shall not fear the rain;
I shall not hear the nightingale
Sing on as if in pain;
And dreaming through the twilight
That doth not rise nor set,
Haply I may remember,
And haply may forget.